When I ask you, ‘How are you?’, what am I actually asking?
Dearest Darling Friends,
How are you? This is what we ask people when we meet them. If we are conversing in Hindi, we will be asking people ‘Kya haal hai’? How is your haal? Most people reply absent minded either because they are distracted or because they are too busy. And somewhere in this distracted busyness, a pure part of us is lost, lost in darkness.
Haal is an Arabic word. While it has multiple meanings, its plural meaning. totally excites me.
Haal or ḥāl in Arabic means “state” or “condition”. It’s plural ahwal (aḥwāl)) is generally understood to be the product of a Sufi’s spiritual practices while on his way toward God. Therefore, ’Kya haal hai’ means, ‘How is your relationship with the divine? Do you feel close to him? How is your heart?’
Imagine, you and I meet somewhere. I ask you, “Kya haal hai”? What am I asking you?
I am not asking what is the condition of your to-do list. Your answer for that could be, “There are too many things to do. I am so busy.”
I am not asking how much money you have. Your answer could be, “God is kind. I have more than what I need.” Or, “Times are tough. But, this too shall pass.”
What I want to know is that, at this very moment, how is your heart? Tell me. Tell me if your heart is joyous, tell me if your heart is aching, tell me if your heart is sad, tell me if your heart craves a human touch, tell me if your heart needs a close friend, tell me if your heart wishes to unburden or tell me if your heart just wants to dance. Tell me, how is your heart!
Tell me if you are still a human being, (in touch with yourself, your divinity, your emotions), or have you become just a human doing.
I asked you ‘Kya haal hai’…to go on to have that conversation, that glance, that touch, the one that is filled with grace and presence. ‘How to do that’? you ask. Well, put your hand on my arm, smile slightly, look me in the eye, and connect with me for one second. Feel free, go on and tell me something about your heart, and that is certain to stir my heart. Help me remember that I too am a human being who is fulfilled every time there is a ‘touch of being’.
What you and me want is very simple: a life of purpose, a place to belong, a few non-judgmental people around to talk to and a balanced existence.
W. B. Yeats once wrote:
“It takes more courage to examine the dark corners of your own soul than it does for a soldier to fight on a battlefield.”
How will we examine the dark corners of our soul when we are so busy in ‘doing’? Well, I am always a happy prisoner of sunshine and smiles. So let me ask you, “Kya haal hai’?
With love, prayers and exceptional wishes,
Imagine, when we wake up, we are given only what we had thanked for.
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